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March 27th, 2011

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09:14 am - Siblings
I am so glad the demo was sensibly policed, and passed without incident (until the end when the ordinary types had gone home). My sister was safe and texted me several times to let me know all was well. One of my lj friends who has never met her recognised her from my description, my nephew, and facial similarity to me. Which is strange, isn't it, because within a family you notice your difference from your siblings, but to others the similarities are more noticeable.

This was also a big discovery for me after I left home at 18. While I was growing up it was all about the differences between the siblings - me argumentative and inquisitive, my brother mathematical and reserved, my sister empathic and gentle, my other brother funny and aggressive. Then after you have left home you realise that these are people with whom you have a massive shared set of values and experiences which outweigh the differences between you. And after years of going outwards, you turn back towards them, and appreciate them more. That's how it has been for me anyway.

I read the other day that having four children or more was associated with stress (no!) and unhappiness. I do believe my parents had a very difficult time raising us all with very little money, and if they were often difficult to be with, in retrospect I can understand why. But for me, having three siblings is great. I just wouldn't inflict that level of fecundity on myself.

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Date:March 27th, 2011 09:11 am (UTC)
I really value my three siblings (and yep I get told how much my Sis and I resemble one another, even though I think I look more like my eldest brother!) For all the chaos when we were younger, we give eachother a lot of support in adulthood. It's been more obvious for me, being the youngest -- now we're all grown-ups together, as it were.

And I'm afraid you *do* look like your Sis to the outsider ;) While I knew the rough description of your nephew's party, I wouldn't have been brave enough to say hello if I hadn't looked at the area around your Sis's eyes and nose and thought 'That *has* to be Communicator's sister.'

Hope they had a good march. I managed to meet with some Bristolians while taping my placard together in the what-its-already-gone without us? bit of the disabled bloc. Ironically, it was because they recognised the face of my non-Bristolian friend, whose user icon I'd added to my placard. Small world.
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Date:March 27th, 2011 10:20 am (UTC)
Yes, they got home tired and safe. It was all much better than I had feared.

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