But, my daughter has decided to come home this weekend. It's her birthday, and she has saved up and bought a ticket home. What can I do? I can't leave her and go off for the day: she hasn't been home for months. Nor do I feel safe taking her with me. If she were determined to go then fair enough, but don't think she wants to. I could exert emotional pressure on her, but that feels wrong.
My sister is going with her son, who is in a wheelchair. He wants to go. Nevertheless of course it is a risk. He is quite helpless, if she for example was separated from him by police action, he can't even speak or move.
I am not proud of my decision - well, it isn't a final decision, my daughter may express a wish to go - but I don't feel I have room to manoeuvre.