October 18th, 2010
|08:45 am - A visit|
I went to altariel's house this weekend, and I had a great time. It is hard to believe we could spend so many hours just talking, and the time just flew by. So interesting. I think altariel has unusually deep insight into people, and also willingness and ability to articulate insight, which even the most insightful people often hide with deflective aphorisms and glib comments. Why do people hide it? To hide themselves I suppose.
mraltariel is literally the best home-cook I know, and his food is delicious of course and also it's interesting to find out about new ways of cooking and presenting food. On Saturday among other things we had chicken cooked 'sous vide' which I have never had before. The texture in particular was striking - both firm and soft. Sorry not very good at describing the texture of meat :-)
mraltariel and I are both very interested in archaeology, and particularly in trying to feel or understand the experiences of people in transitional states. For example, the transition from Palaeolithic to Mesolithic Europe. I recommended to him the new Stephen Baxter novel Stone Spring. I haven't read it myself yet though.
Anyway, this ridiculously abridged version hardly does justice to a lovely weekend.
willingness and ability to articulate insight, which even the most insightful people often hide with deflective aphorisms and glib comments. Why do people hide it? To hide themselves I suppose.
I'm not so sure about that. Could it not be that one has the insight, but not the ability to articulate it? Or are you saying that they don't have the willingness either?
That's a good challenge to what I said, and I don't have a very good answer. I am not criticising the inarticulate, and heaven knows I am often inarticulate.
I suppose that making up a witty reply which reveals-and-yet-conceals insight is quite an achievement, not the mark of the inarticulate. So I am talking about willingness not ability.
But - big caveat - I should also say I really enjoy that kind of witty banter and deflective conversation which hints that each person has much more depth than they are revealing. It's great, I love it. But I think it's also good to be able to turn it off sometimes.
Anyway, thanks for the question, because it's made me think harder about what I said.
Edited at 2010-10-18 08:30 am (UTC)
and I did say 'ability to articulate' didn't I? well, I suppose I confused two things
Thank you so much for coming over. You're the best kind of conversation partner - you listen, and then you run with it. We must do this again very soon!