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02:37 pm - Pick up lines that Really Work!!1!
I was talking before about how I thought the 'pick up artist' movement was bad for men and made them lonely. pandagon today has a nice post about an analysis of emails sent through OK cupid. Certain words and phrases are more likely to elicit a positive response than others. The analysis shows that conventional pick up lines are not the way forward. There are some clear graphs.

In brief - the emails most likely to get a reply from women talk politely about the woman's individual profile or post ('You mention...', 'I notice that...', 'I'm curious what...') as do self-deprecating lines ('I apologise...', 'awkward...', 'sorry...') while pick-up lines get a negative response ('sexy', 'hot', even 'you're pretty').

It's kind of obvious really, and I'm sure the gents on my f-list know this kind of thing instinctively, without even trying. Just talk to women like they were regular folks.

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From:iainjcoleman
Date:October 6th, 2009 02:12 pm (UTC)
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Looks like a useful piece of analysis for the "pick up artist" movement.

Perhaps I should write a book: "How to be sincere and self-effacing (and bang hot chicks)". I could do with a few quid.
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From:communicator
Date:October 6th, 2009 02:19 pm (UTC)
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But will you advise them to really be interested in the women or just to fake it?
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From:iainjcoleman
Date:October 6th, 2009 02:34 pm (UTC)
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An interesting question. One could be quite subtle about it, starting off from "The best way to bang a hottie is to pretend to be interested in stuff about her", through "the best way to achieve this appearance is to have some real interest", ending up at "your best appraoch is to try getting to know women who have similar interests and attitudes to yourself, take a genuine interest in them as human beings, and see what develops from there".
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From:communicator
Date:October 6th, 2009 02:46 pm (UTC)
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cunning
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From:kerravonsen
Date:October 7th, 2009 01:06 am (UTC)
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Doo eeet! ;-)
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From:gfk88
Date:October 6th, 2009 03:08 pm (UTC)
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Sounds convincing enough. So why is my strike rate so low then, eh ?

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From:communicator
Date:October 6th, 2009 03:18 pm (UTC)
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Yeah, I found settling down into a long term relationship and having kids really put a crimp on my game
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From:gfk88
Date:October 6th, 2009 03:21 pm (UTC)
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Damn - it's all so clear now you've explained it.
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From:communicator
Date:October 7th, 2009 07:07 am (UTC)
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SB - please don't do that again. I don't want links from this blog to people I work with.
From:(Anonymous)
Date:October 10th, 2009 04:54 am (UTC)
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OK - I know, it was a very stupid thing to do. Sorry, won't happen again. Hope things ok with you.
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From:communicator
Date:October 10th, 2009 06:15 am (UTC)
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It's OK, I know that 2 in the morning feeling. I'm not too bad. I hope you are managing to find your way now, and that the kids are well.
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From:darknova666
Date:October 8th, 2009 06:43 am (UTC)
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now i'm curious!
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From:communicator
Date:October 8th, 2009 10:07 pm (UTC)
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you will never know :-) nice to hear from you, I think you must be on a long orbit that comes back every few years

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