December 5th, 2008
|11:30 pm - Addendum|
The article that I just quoted about happinness and sadness spreading through a network of friends doesn't mean I think that people shouldn't share sad feelings. i was just getting into bed a few moments ago, and I felt worried that it might have seemed that way so I have just got out of bed again to post this.
I think it's interesting how emotions pass around. We function within a social network, which is very sensitive and speedy in its transmission. I don't think that means we shouldn't share our sad feelings. In fact if we did limit ourselves in that way, it would wreck the social network itself, because it wouldn't really be about friendship any more. The research was very limited in its scope - it's interesting but I would hate anyone to think I meant anything more by mentioning it than 'well, fancy that'.
Perhaps I'm worrying about nothing, but it suddenly occurred to me I might have accidentally hurt someone's feelings, not for the first time.
|Date:||December 6th, 2008 01:09 am (UTC)|| |
Don't worry about it.
Thanks - you might know how it is when you are just going to sleep and your eyes spring open and you think - wah - I said it all wrong
You worry too much about other people's feelings. Write what you believe. If it inadvertently hurts your friends' feelings, they will understand, and forgive you. That's what the whole "friend" thing means. If people you don't even know get offended, tough, You can't go through life without being offended from time to time.
I suppose my mental model was somebody on my f-list having a crap day, and then reading that post and thinking 'and now communicator is telling me off for bringing everyone down' which is probably the last thing anyone needs to feel in such circumstances
|Date:||December 6th, 2008 04:12 pm (UTC)|| |
I can understand why you thought that and think it's lovely of you to post that clarification.
I found the research fascinating too - and it makes me doubly glad when I do have good news to share.
The fact that your two commenters on this post so far have spent this evening getting pissed together should in no way detract from your evaluation of their comments.
I did not spend the evening getting pissed with these two commenters, alas, but I still agree with them.
Cheers! *raises early morning pint of heavy*
I did (spend the evening with them but not get pissed), but I agree too.