September 25th, 2006
|10:13 am - Lovers of women|
I've posted before about the hatred - and if you read the comments below I think you will agree this is not too strong a word - of female sexuality, which IMHO runs like a streak of pus through modern society. A woman in a long term heterosexual relationship, who had raised three children with her partner, wrote in her blog about the difficulty of getting emergency contraception when a condom broke. Really, the anecdote is quite interesting, but I'm not going to go into it, because that isn't my point - you can read it here. It gained quite a bit of bloggy attention at the time, because of the changes in US law coming up to make such contraception more widely available.
Instead I'd like to draw your attention to this follow-up post where she picks out some of the comments she got to the original post. Note this is an middle aged mum they are talking to.
joe: dirty whores like you are sickening.. deal with responsibility you abortion whore.
Anonymous: Insensitive bastard WHORE!
Michael: Logic would indicate that if you didn't want to get pregant you shouldn't have been screwing. You have a CHOICE not to get fucked, right? You're sound as if you were rapped. Sex doesn't happen on accident. You have no self control and now you have to have an abortion or a fourth child. Dumbass.
anonymous: obviously a fat ugly chick who can't get any so has to make up bullshit about "condoms breaking" as though you ever actually get fucked, bitch. hahahahaha
mark: if the condom broke he must've felt it...i reckon he must've known it broke but liked the feeling of your slippery vagina too much.
Anonymous: You should have given the ER a try, you raging slut! lol
Anonymous: Some hambeast managed to trick a lonely schmoe into fucking her, and his gunny-sack breaks. So she piles her jellyrolls into her clown car and zips around town looking for cunt pills.
Anonymous: PWNED!! Here's an idea, don't be such a whore!
White Male: Hey BB, you dirty whore. GET MARRIED YOU FUCKING SLUT.
Anonymous: I don't understand. There was a condom involved, which implies the presence of a penis. What sort of man would fuck a feminist?
Conservative: Haha you whore! Ashamed is how you should feel.
dragoon: Should not have sex outside of marriage it's your fault all this happened. Abrotion is evil... No doubt that you are going to hell. Jesus taught not to kill. FUCK YOU!
Jason: Too all you idiots blathering on here, here's the opinion of an ACTUAL LAWYER: You're a little slutty whore
hebdey1015: you are a dirty, dirty whore; aren't you? WHORE! How much for head, biatch?
It is hard for me to see why heterosexual men hate heterosexual women so much, why they hate sexual expression so much. I am quite sure that if they were standing in front of a real woman, standing in front of me for instance, they would not dare to look me in the eye and speak in that way. I expect some of these men have never had sex, or spoken to a woman.
Note this woman is not a prostitute, or sexually promiscuous. As far as it appears she has had sex with one man, and raised a family with him. Though obviously any woman can make any sexual choices she wants and nobody should be subject to those sorts of insults. It's just that because of this woman's conventional respectability the raw hatred is thrown into very sharp relief.
|Date:||September 25th, 2006 09:23 am (UTC)|| |
That's all really.
Sometimes I feel frightened that my courageous open-hearted daughter will have to live in a world with people like this
It is hard for me to see why heterosexual men hate heterosexual women so much
It's hard for me to see how you get to that from about 15 responses to a blog post. I could easily get that many responses indicating that all Americans hate black people, or that all straight people hate gay people. But it wouldn't mean that everyone did it.
America is certainly worse than most of Europe, largely due to its Christian upbringings. And similar feelings could be found in the UK - but not nearly as commonly, I'd say.
The people making these comments are the kind of people who get drawn to places where they can be complete idiots in public and try to annoy people. They're the same people who, in the UK, stage massive write-in campaigns over Jerry Springer: The Opera - very vocal, but actually a small proportion of the population.
If that attitude wasn't constantly exhibited in public health policy, 90% of pornography, the way men talk to you in the street, religion, and law enforcement, I would be able to treat it with the same casual contempt.
|Date:||September 25th, 2006 09:29 am (UTC)|| |
I just read the original post and have two questions but no time to scroll down 408 comments to see if anyone has asked them:
Did she ever call her doctor back again and insist on a prescription? And if she did and the doc refused, can she sue her doctor?
There has been a lot of discussion about whether she can sue.
AFAIK the current situaiton is she drove to an urban area, and got the contraception, but because it took a day or two to sort it out, she now has to wait and see if it worked. I wouldn't blame her for not revealing that.
|Date:||September 25th, 2006 09:31 am (UTC)|| |
I'm a bit anxious as to whether or not she finally found someone who would prescribe for her - did you see that on the site anywhere?
I haven't read all through it, I think I heard elsewhere that she had driven 100 miles to an urban area and found something, but there was some issue about it having taken more than the recommended 48 hours.
BTW I took emergency contraception in 1980, so it's been around a long time. My best girl friend when and lied to the doctor and got it for me.
Your daughter will be just fine precisely /because/ she is open-hearted.
You may write me down in history
With your bitter, twisted lies,
You may trod me in the very dirt
But still, like dust, I'll rise.
Does my sassiness upset you?
Why are you beset with gloom?
'Cause I walk like I've got oil wells
Pumping in my living room.
Just like moons and like suns,
With the certainty of tides,
Just like hopes springing high,
Still I'll rise.
Did you want to see me broken?
Bowed head and lowered eyes?
Shoulders falling down like teardrops.
Weakened by my soulful cries.
Does my haughtiness offend you?
Don't you take it awful hard
'Cause I laugh like I've got gold mines
Diggin' in my own back yard.
You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I'll rise.
Does my sexiness upset you?
Does it come as a surprise
That I dance like I've got diamonds
At the meeting of my thighs?
Out of the huts of history's shame
Up from a past that's rooted in pain
I'm a black ocean, leaping and wide,
Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.
Leaving behind nights of terror and fear
Into a daybreak that's wondrously clear
Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,
I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
I sometimes feel so scared for her, when I see the things that happen
|Date:||September 25th, 2006 10:51 am (UTC)|| |
This is extraordinary. I thought I'd lost the capacity to be surprised by people's stupidity. Apparently not. I particularly liked:
****Abrotion is evil... No doubt that you are going to hell. Jesus taught not to kill. FUCK YOU!****
I must have missed the bit where Jesus said it was OK to post comments like that.
It startled me too. It makes me so glad that livejournal blogs are largely ignored by the wider blog world.
It is hard for me to see why heterosexual men hate heterosexual women so much
What makes you think all of these comments were written by men?
Many things make me think it, and think they are heterosexual, though in cyberspace we never know
Their stated names, and their ignorance of the female body and sexuality I suppose would be what I based it on
Have you seen the follow-up to this post, where she mentions she got several death threats and several "helpful herbal emergency contraception cures" phrased as kindly advice that, when inspected, turned out to be lethal concoctions?
Yes. Words fail me on this point.
Don't know what the herbal remedy was - herbal arbortificants are of course toxic at the best of times - which is why I won't identify them on line in case some poor sod googles for it, reads my post, and kills themselves trying to bring one on without medical assistance. It's unlikely but possible. My point being it might have been kindly meant but idiotic and irresponsible (from one of the 'herbs can't be dangerous' crowd).