Communicator (communicator) wrote,


I have now experienced almost three months of the hypnotherapy training. I missed last Saturday (because of H's sister's wedding), so I am going down to London to catch the course down there. It has been quite a profound and demanding experience. I was just saying in a reply to emeraldsedai that it's not adding a new skill to one's repertoire, but requires you to examine your self and your values. Which is very tiring. I feel that there is a lot of unconscious learning going on, which is good, but wearing and sometimes (temporarily) depressing.

The kind of therapy I am learning is integrative - not least it integrates hypnotherapy with counselling. I am very fortunate because the values and premises of the approach are humanistic, and chime with the values I already had. I can't believe how lucky this is.

In a humanistic approach, the person you are working with leads and controls their own process. You accompany them rather than lead them. Another key word is congruence - that covers stuff like good faith and sincerity. For instance, I was working with a woman who told me in a very matter of fact way about a rude thing that someone had said to her. My comment was 'that makes me angry': I wasn't standing back from the process, I was plunged into it. I was sincerely angry on her behalf, and I had to experience that fully, but with complete self-control. Another key theme is unconditional positive regard - non-judgemental advocacy of the person you are working with. All of these values are more crucial than the technical practice of hypnosis (IMHO).

My approach is at one extreme of the group of people on the course. For instance as I hypnotise someone else I often sort of trance out myself. I am quite warm and engaged with their experience. This by the way is fine, it's a method, and it's the one that comes best to me. When I was a teacher I taught best like that - warm engaged advocacy.

Part of the traditional view of hypnotherapy is that the therapist is in charge, and in some ways I am a dominating personality, but in therapy I try to step back from this, and emphasise that the subject is their own master. Being in control can be a self-protective shield, and so the process is raw, and makes me vulnerable.
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